I learned a long time ago that
I could talk about doing
something, or I could do it,
but I couldn't do both at
the same time.Talking about
your relationship in the sense
that most people do it carries
an implied threat that belies
a lack of commitment. The
other person must change or I
will leave and take my
Me-Centered Universe with me.
Go right ahead.If you want to
be happy, commit to your
relationship and make the
other person happy. Unless you
are in some kind of toxic
relationship they will
autgmaoically respond by
making you happier. (If it is
a toxic relationship, stop
talking and leave.)